tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19984125.post570537163361671597..comments2023-11-15T09:24:10.316-08:00Comments on The 25 Year Plan: GriefMichael K. Althousehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07726807939923761538noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19984125.post-1403212225037111592008-01-18T14:30:00.000-08:002008-01-18T14:30:00.000-08:00Hi Mr A. This post is as powerful as when I first ...Hi Mr A. This post is as powerful as when I first read it, which is apt for the reason I have visited. There is something waiting for you over at my blog.Bobkathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11842625953465490864noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19984125.post-86938062666421426332008-01-12T21:51:00.000-08:002008-01-12T21:51:00.000-08:00Is no solemn ceremony without idiots?Granted, it's...Is no solemn ceremony without idiots?<BR/><BR/>Granted, it's nice when everyone wants to help. (and doesn't force it)! <BR/>It can be very tough being the "public stars" of the procession, (been there).<BR/>I hope the annoying distraction of those butting-in is taken with a grain of salt and filed in "Idiots," under "Try to forget this part!"<BR/><BR/>I lit a candle n prayed-Snaggle Toothhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07197042129309670471noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19984125.post-67623233011050773072008-01-11T20:15:00.000-08:002008-01-11T20:15:00.000-08:00This is important and powerful. I remember people...This is important and powerful. I remember people trying to do the same with me, and I remember staring right through them. I particularly remember one relative insisting to me that my father was in a better place and that she'd "trade places with him in a heartbeat". I couldn't have agreed more and would have done whatever it took right then to achieve it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19984125.post-45317348679557426252008-01-11T15:55:00.000-08:002008-01-11T15:55:00.000-08:00I was thinking the same things that Shephard said....I was thinking the same things that Shephard said. I have witnessed the same thing happening around here, with people who don't even know the deceased child or his/her family. I think it is a way for some people to feel that they are part of a group and hope to be accepted. Sad.kenjuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07342414519714356343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19984125.post-79337152398641117352008-01-11T14:59:00.000-08:002008-01-11T14:59:00.000-08:00I esp. liked this post, because, just as you menti...I esp. liked this post, because, just as you mentioned, so many try to bond thru wounds and re-grieve. I thought what you said has great integrity and honesty and maturity (for lack of a better word... your maturity was never a question, but rather those who don't understand). Really nice.<BR/>Thought I'd stop by when I saw you over at Michele's. <BR/><BR/>~SShephardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07318615370914088651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19984125.post-29669494867831265882008-01-11T14:52:00.000-08:002008-01-11T14:52:00.000-08:00Michele sent me today to catch up - I haven't visi...Michele sent me today to catch up - I haven't visited in quite a while and I first must say congratulations on your BA! <BR/><BR/>As for this post, yes. I would like to hope that at least some of the milder offenders were much at a loss of the correct thing to say. I fear that is not do and they truly thought they knew better than the grieving family. <BR/><BR/>I think "Call me if I can do something for you" seems better to me than the impositions you describe.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19984125.post-61043459167434754342008-01-11T09:45:00.000-08:002008-01-11T09:45:00.000-08:00This post did indeed have resonance for me, but no...This post did indeed have resonance for me, but not for the reasons you outlined. Rather it was because I witnessed exactly the same thing after the death of my neice. The biblical phrase 'wailing and gnashing of teeth' came to my mind then as it does now. <BR/><BR/>I am very sorry for the grief of your friends. No platitudes from me, just sadness for their loss. <BR/><BR/>Michele sent me to share your sentiments today.Bobkathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11842625953465490864noreply@blogger.com